Sunday 4 June 2017

Can we stop with the bitching?

Women. Mothers.

We give sympathetic looks to the new Mum trying to get round the supermarket with a screaming newborn. We openly tell each other our birth stories having only met minutes earlier. We befriend each other over Instagram and Mummy forums. We drunkenly hug strangers and mop up their tears whilst in the loos on a night out. 

Pavement with love one and another written in chalk

Yet, we can turn on each other, sometimes quite savagely. Whether it be preaching at a mum who asks about formula and telling her breast being best or deeming a woman a slummy mummy for dropping the kids off at school in her pajamas. It can happen anywhere, on a playground or online.

There can be bitching everywhere. Plenty of people do it. Even if its a 'what is she wearing?' or 'have you seen her latest Facebook profile picture?', its all a little tainted. 

Most readers of Mummy bloggers and/or the Daily Fail (cough), sorry Mail, will be aware of the fish finger, slummy mummy saga recently. A writer/journalist wrote a scathing piece about Mummy bloggers and Instagrammers that she believes are so called 'slummy mummies' and that compete against each other to be bad parents, give fish fingers for tea and drink gin. The writer, who coincidentally has a book to sell herself, even went as far to say they are arrogant and also, which upset me the most, neglectful. 

The whole thing wreaked of jealously and, to be brutally honestly, downright bitchiness.  

Read the comments on some of the leading Instagram stars posts and you will see more of it. Bitchiness. In the press we see best and worst dressed, which is along the same path. Bitchiness. 

What is it that brings this out in us women? Is it jealously? Is it unhappiness? Are we just a bunch of bitches?

Maybe we all need to breath before we type or speak. Does it sound a bit hurtful or bitchy? Is there a point in saying it? How many of our grans would say "don't say anything if you don't have anything nice to say?".  

Maybe we all need to think about that before we bitch and be a bit more like the friendly drunk girl in the loos. 

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  1. Couldn't agree with you more - surely at this age, when we should all be in this together, trying to support each other in what is a role which is full of ups & downs, and why oh why would people try to put other down? Beggars belief really and it's sad but so much is jealousy. #AnythingGoes

  2. I read the article she wrote and I got the impression she was just trying to use a few big blogger names to get some publicity. It might have been negative on the whole, but the fact is, she got talked about all over and got exactly what she wanted.
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes :)

  3. Yes yes yes! I don't know why it all escalates so quickly, when one woman decides to bitch and lots of others jump on the wagon. I believe the Daily Mail article was designed to provoke a big hoo haa but the bitching element seems to crop up in all aspects of my life where lots of women are put together! I find it sad. Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam x

  4. I completely agree with this. I will never understand why people feel the need to be bitchy towards other people, especially other bloggers. What happened to building each other up instead of knocking each other down? Love this post. Thank you for joining us at #sharingthebloglove

  5. I just don't get why people have to turn on people. It just screams jealously doesn't it? I see it a lot in the blogging world and it makes me sad and want to stay in my bubble. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  6. it is jealousy, has to be. no clue, why women cannot just be happy for each other - I live so far away and move often enough not to be bothered by it! but I don't envy, that's for sure :) #sharingthebloglove

  7. Oh my goodness, yes, I completely agree with this. It really upsets me! I think it's human nature to judge a little - it's how we assess whether what we are personally doing is the correct thing. However, rather than take those thoughts and consider them inwardly - questioning whether there is something in our own life we want to change - we push them back out as criticism and negative judgement of others. Which is completely wrong. A few years ago I made a concerted effort to stop doing it. I don't always succeed but when I do have a slip it's usually in private with a trusted group who know I don't really mean it.

    I completely agree we all just need to be kinder. Your Nan's mantra is one we do need to readopt! #SharingTheBlogLove

  8. Big yes to this! I just don't get it? I'm a big believer in karma! #friyaylinky xx

  9. Gran was very tight indeed don't say anything unless you have anything nice to say #sharingthebloglove

  10. I just hate the way people feel they have to be nasty. But when you have big mainstream media like the Daily Fail leading the way people follow. They think it's ok. It sure aint! #sharingthebloglove

  11. Well said we should be boosting each other up not ripping one another apart. #SharingtheBlogLove

  12. This is so true. Thankfully, since I started blogging I have found the most amazingly supportive community and no bitchiness at all. Newspapers and magazines however seem to love pitching us all against one another for no other reason than to sell more copies and get talked about. We need to be building each other up, not tearing each other down x

  13. Some people do really need to get over themselves. It's really none of their business, they're trying to make themselves feel big at other people's expense and being mean. Just.Does.My.Head.In. Life really is too short!